Tag Archives: love

when does love come knocking?

1 Apr

Before meeting MM I had spent the majority of my adult life single, and I realised that I just may be single for the rest of my life. At first I felt like I needed to grieve for that part of my life. After all it is bred into us from birth almost, that one of life’s milestones is to find your soul mate, marry and live happily ever after. But here I was 40 and single. I had promised myself that after my last dismal relationship that I would remain single until I could love myself exactly as I was and find happiness without relying on a partner for some of that happiness. Five years down the track, I had done just that. I was genuinely happy for the first time ever and not really too concerned with meeting someone. Life was actually going to plan and whilst I thought it would be nice to meet someone I wasn’t too concerned if I didn’t.

And that’s when it hit me! Bam! Awe inspiring, breathtaking, soul-binding love! MM came into my life at a time when I was very happy to be single. In fact, I was so happy that we almost didn’t get together. I was thinking we should just be friends. I didn’t want to run the risk of starting a relationship and have it ruin my happiness. But taking that leap of faith has shown me that our relationship only enhanced my happiness – it didn’t take away from it. It is the way a relationship should be…an enhancement to your life, not YOUR life!

They were right when they said that you have to love yourself before you can love someone else and you can only find happiness when you are already happy. I found love and happiness within and soon after I was sent love and happiness in the form of MM.

So if you are sitting on the couch wondering when Mr/Ms Right will knock on your door, stop! Forget about him/her and start to fall in love with yourself. Creating a full and happy life for yourself should be your only concern. When you engage with life and let go of finding a relationship to bring you happiness, then that’s when the magic happens.

Until next time…think big & blossom!

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merry christmas!

25 Dec

Wherever you may be, whatever you may be doing, whomever you are with,  may you celebrate this season with love, joy and peace.

I wish that going into 2015, that we see the world filled with peace and love. That life is all that you hoped for. That your dreams all come true and that you remember how truly wonderful you are as a co-creator of your life.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

love is in the air!

26 Nov

Romantic love is not usually a love I write a lot about, mostly because I never had much luck in that arena. However, this has changed recently with the arrival of a man whom shall for the purposes of this blog be called MM (my man).

MM is such a gorgeous guy. He is compatible with me on so many levels. We have lots of common interests and the same sense of humour and in the short space of time that I have known him I have fallen deeply, deeply in lurve with him. This man is my soulmate!

Being all loved up got me to thinking about soulmates and what exactly makes us so attracted and compatible to one person. Firstly, I believe that there is more than one soulmate for everyone, and I also believe that soulmates are rarely romantically connected to us. For example, my nephew is my spiritual soulmate – he totally gets my philosophy on life. My hairdresser is my musical soulmate – not only does he keep my hair looking fabulous but we bond over our mutual love of 80’s music. These soulmates have one specific task – to bond with me over a specific set of circumstances in my life. A romantic soulmate, however is an entirely different matter because they bond with your heart and your soul. So, what makes MM the guy who has stolen my heart?

Is it the mutual respect he gives me? Or the way he genuinely listens to what I have to say and then uses it later in conversation so I know I have been heard? Is it the way he rubs his thumb along my thumb when he holds my hand or the way he places his hand on the small of my back as he guides me through a crowded restaurant? Is it the laughter we share or the private jokes we have between us or is it the fire he lights within me that makes me think that with him by my side I can accomplish anything? Maybe it’s a combination of all these things or maybe it’s just a chemical reaction in my brain. All I know is that whatever it is, it makes my heart sing.

Alas, I think romantic soulmate love will always be a bit of a mystery and I like it that way. I believe it is something to be experienced, not analysed under a microscope. I do believe that if you interviewed a hundred couples who believed they were romantic soulmates, they would each tell you a hundred different reasons why they are soulmates. So in my opinion there is no one answer to this question.

And so I leave you with a quote from my nine year old nephew, a wise one I must say. He told me that “Love is love…”. Nothing more, nothing less, love is love in all its shapes and forms.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

defining our terms…

14 Nov

We are put here on this beautiful Earth to live a life of love & joy. We are here to experience all that life has to offer. The ups and downs, the swings and roundabouts. All learning experiences and experiences that should ultimately create a life of joy. So why do so many of us let our lives be defined by other people’s terms, other people’s wishes.

As children we do what our parents tell us to do and for the most part we are given rules and regulations to keep us safe. It gives us boundaries and a foundation from which to grow. Then as we get older we are supposed to define our own terms for living, yet so rarely do we get to do this. The society in which we grow up in plays a big part in moulding us, not always for the better. And even when we are doing things in a way that is not congruent with our heart and soul, if the rest of society is doing it then we are less likely to question it and rather follow blindly the terms that have been set before us.

This has to change.

We need to start defining life by our own terms, by what makes our heart sing. The only way we can get to experience the quintessential truth of who we are is by defining the terms of our life, following the rules that we were born with, which if truth be known is usually only one rule – to live a life filled with joy and love.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. Follow your heart, your mind and your gut. These three brains make up one big brain that can put you on the right path to living a life that is blessed with great joy, abundant love and wonderful experiences. A life which is defined by our own terms is a life well lived. Don’t go to your deathbed and wish that you had done things differently. Live, love and laugh your way through a life filled with wonderful memories and cherished relationships. These will be the things you take with you to your next life.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

hope for a new generation

28 Sep

Be Love - Copyrighted

I have said it before so sorry if I keep repeating myself but I try not to focus on the news. It is after all one of the most depressing things you’ll see or read all day, especially at the moment with all the chaos happening around the world.

A lot of people think I bury my head in the sand but I believe that for my sanity and the sanity of the world that it helps not to focus on all the negativity and instead focus on love. It is without a doubt the only thing we need right now. Love would stop all this madness because when you come from a place of love it is impossible to commit the atrocities that are being committed at the moment.

If I let my imagination play havoc with my thoughts & think about a world without love, I start to fear for the generations coming up behind me. How does this endless stream of greed, control & violence affect their outlook on life? Does it desensitise them so  that it only becomes worse or will it eventually get to the point where it implodes upon itself and from it comes a period of love and happiness? I can only pray that it is the latter.

If you are a bringer of peace, a purveyor of love then I ask you to spread your story to the masses. It is time for us to focus on the possibilities that life can bring us and not on this chaos that is happening now. If what we think about, we bring about, isn’t it only sensible that we start to think about love and peace? For the sake of humanity, we have to change our way of thinking, we have to start to spread peace, not hate, make love, not war and accept each & every one of us as we are unconditionally. No one needs to change, we all just need to learn to adopt a live and let live attitude.

There is hope for the next generation but only if we start practicing a loving attitude today.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

release…

25 Jun

I think back to all the years behind me as I get ready to make the next move forward in my life. Throughout those years I have tried to be the best version of me that I could be, even though I have had to fight numerous bouts of depression and deal with an ego that produces fearful thoughts every time I tried to step outside of my comfort zone. Maybe it’s just the right time or maybe it’s because I’m getting older and the things that used to stress me, just don’t anymore but over the last few weeks I have been releasing the stuff from the past that keeps coming back to haunt me…mostly relationships that should never have gotten off the ground or relationships that should have been given a chance when I had the opportunity and just general missed opportunities in my career, etc. In the past I would have played these situations over and over again in my head, wondering how I could change the past, but as you all know, my learned friends, the past is in the past and cannot be changed, no matter how much you want it to. We have to be content with forgiving and moving on, hopefully to bigger and better things.

The weight that is lifting off my shoulders is a release that I thought might not ever come. This time last year I had surrendered to the fact that my life was shit and that was that! But as with all cycles in life, I am now sure that I can create the life of my dreams and that the next time I hit a low I will be better prepared to push through it and climb that hill back to happiness and contentment.

On the outside my life doesn’t look like it has changed that much in the last few weeks, but on the inside a flower that was closed is now blossoming and filling me with a feeling of anticipation and joy. I am experiencing a deep sense of peace that I have not felt in a long time and all I had to do was let go of the past. I mean really let go. You can say you have but until you really do, it will hold you back in all areas of your life. I call to all those experiencing the same to be brave and take that next step, to remove yourself from the shackles that have bound you to your past. Be free, be at peace, be true to yourself now. Now is all we ever really have. Enjoy it because all too soon it is in the past…

 

lights, cameras, action!

20 Mar

It is a brave person who can follow up their words with action. As I go about my day my focus has been drawn to people who say everything you want them to say but never actually follow through with action. I have been guilty of this too. This year I am trying to ensure that I follow through with action and this includes the words I say to myself. Cause let’s face it, this person is the most important person you should follow through with. It is so easy to speak with flowery language. These days we bandie about I love yous and forevers like they are hellos and goodbyes. I feel frustrated that we are not more careful with our words,  that we don’t think before we speak. I want us to remember that words are very powerful and even more so when they are follow through with action, so we need to be careful of whose heart we play with, even when it’s our own heart… especially when it’s our own. There is nothing worse then breaking your own heart because that can be one of the hardest things to come back from. There are no outside influences to blame. There is only you.

So, be true to yourself. Be careful with your self talk but most of all, be gentle with your heart. May your actions speak louder than your words.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

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