Tag Archives: happiness

when does love come knocking?

1 Apr

Before meeting MM I had spent the majority of my adult life single, and I realised that I just may be single for the rest of my life. At first I felt like I needed to grieve for that part of my life. After all it is bred into us from birth almost, that one of life’s milestones is to find your soul mate, marry and live happily ever after. But here I was 40 and single. I had promised myself that after my last dismal relationship that I would remain single until I could love myself exactly as I was and find happiness without relying on a partner for some of that happiness. Five years down the track, I had done just that. I was genuinely happy for the first time ever and not really too concerned with meeting someone. Life was actually going to plan and whilst I thought it would be nice to meet someone I wasn’t too concerned if I didn’t.

And that’s when it hit me! Bam! Awe inspiring, breathtaking, soul-binding love! MM came into my life at a time when I was very happy to be single. In fact, I was so happy that we almost didn’t get together. I was thinking we should just be friends. I didn’t want to run the risk of starting a relationship and have it ruin my happiness. But taking that leap of faith has shown me that our relationship only enhanced my happiness – it didn’t take away from it. It is the way a relationship should be…an enhancement to your life, not YOUR life!

They were right when they said that you have to love yourself before you can love someone else and you can only find happiness when you are already happy. I found love and happiness within and soon after I was sent love and happiness in the form of MM.

So if you are sitting on the couch wondering when Mr/Ms Right will knock on your door, stop! Forget about him/her and start to fall in love with yourself. Creating a full and happy life for yourself should be your only concern. When you engage with life and let go of finding a relationship to bring you happiness, then that’s when the magic happens.

Until next time…think big & blossom!

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love is in the air!

26 Nov

Romantic love is not usually a love I write a lot about, mostly because I never had much luck in that arena. However, this has changed recently with the arrival of a man whom shall for the purposes of this blog be called MM (my man).

MM is such a gorgeous guy. He is compatible with me on so many levels. We have lots of common interests and the same sense of humour and in the short space of time that I have known him I have fallen deeply, deeply in lurve with him. This man is my soulmate!

Being all loved up got me to thinking about soulmates and what exactly makes us so attracted and compatible to one person. Firstly, I believe that there is more than one soulmate for everyone, and I also believe that soulmates are rarely romantically connected to us. For example, my nephew is my spiritual soulmate – he totally gets my philosophy on life. My hairdresser is my musical soulmate – not only does he keep my hair looking fabulous but we bond over our mutual love of 80’s music. These soulmates have one specific task – to bond with me over a specific set of circumstances in my life. A romantic soulmate, however is an entirely different matter because they bond with your heart and your soul. So, what makes MM the guy who has stolen my heart?

Is it the mutual respect he gives me? Or the way he genuinely listens to what I have to say and then uses it later in conversation so I know I have been heard? Is it the way he rubs his thumb along my thumb when he holds my hand or the way he places his hand on the small of my back as he guides me through a crowded restaurant? Is it the laughter we share or the private jokes we have between us or is it the fire he lights within me that makes me think that with him by my side I can accomplish anything? Maybe it’s a combination of all these things or maybe it’s just a chemical reaction in my brain. All I know is that whatever it is, it makes my heart sing.

Alas, I think romantic soulmate love will always be a bit of a mystery and I like it that way. I believe it is something to be experienced, not analysed under a microscope. I do believe that if you interviewed a hundred couples who believed they were romantic soulmates, they would each tell you a hundred different reasons why they are soulmates. So in my opinion there is no one answer to this question.

And so I leave you with a quote from my nine year old nephew, a wise one I must say. He told me that “Love is love…”. Nothing more, nothing less, love is love in all its shapes and forms.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

hope for a new generation

28 Sep

Be Love - Copyrighted

I have said it before so sorry if I keep repeating myself but I try not to focus on the news. It is after all one of the most depressing things you’ll see or read all day, especially at the moment with all the chaos happening around the world.

A lot of people think I bury my head in the sand but I believe that for my sanity and the sanity of the world that it helps not to focus on all the negativity and instead focus on love. It is without a doubt the only thing we need right now. Love would stop all this madness because when you come from a place of love it is impossible to commit the atrocities that are being committed at the moment.

If I let my imagination play havoc with my thoughts & think about a world without love, I start to fear for the generations coming up behind me. How does this endless stream of greed, control & violence affect their outlook on life? Does it desensitise them so  that it only becomes worse or will it eventually get to the point where it implodes upon itself and from it comes a period of love and happiness? I can only pray that it is the latter.

If you are a bringer of peace, a purveyor of love then I ask you to spread your story to the masses. It is time for us to focus on the possibilities that life can bring us and not on this chaos that is happening now. If what we think about, we bring about, isn’t it only sensible that we start to think about love and peace? For the sake of humanity, we have to change our way of thinking, we have to start to spread peace, not hate, make love, not war and accept each & every one of us as we are unconditionally. No one needs to change, we all just need to learn to adopt a live and let live attitude.

There is hope for the next generation but only if we start practicing a loving attitude today.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

happy, happy, joy, joy!

27 Aug

Life is great! Life is fabulous! Life is…whatever you make it! So why not make it big & beautiful? We are on this planet for such a short time so I think it is very important to live as our real selves, our quintessential selves. Be true to yourself for you are the only person who can make yourself happy. And happiness is all we are here for – to experience joy. What gives you joy is different for everyone. It could be being of service to others or creating masterpieces or just ensuring your kids are loved well. Whatever your joy, your passion, bring it into your life without delay. When you feel joy in one area of your life, it spreads to the other areas of your life – career, family, relationships, health, etc.

Regardless of what we have been told by the media, we do not need the latest sports car or $100,000 sitting in our bank account to be happy. Whilst these things are nice to have, our happiness should not rely upon outside influences. Everything you need to be happy lies within. Close your eyes, breathe and it will come to you. Feeling joy just for the sake of it, is the best feeling in the world. It is a joy that is boundless. It is a joy that encompasses all of you. It fills you with an energy that gives you the courage to face your fears and move forward towards the life of your dreams. It can be loud and brash or quiet and soothing. Embrace it and you will see your life change beyond your wildest imaginings.

So think big, think happy and be true to yourself.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

let’s go deeper…

23 Mar

I have been bombarded recently with so much media about the superficialities of life and it is driving me mad!! If I hear one more plastic surgery ad I will scream! If I hear one more thing about Justin Beiber or the Kardashians I will tear my hair out!! Why are we so obsessed with all this bullshit? Justin Beiber needs to be brought down a peg. He is the epitome of child star gone wrong. I would suggest he goes back to school and gets a brain because some of the things I’ve heard about him just make me feel embarrassed that we put people like him on pedestals. The same goes for the Kardashians. Why are they famous is the question I keep asking? Didn’t Kim do a porn movie???? Wasn’t that how it all started? I find it really sad that you want fame so much that you’re willing to have your sex romp watched by millions of people. It’s degrading to yourself and it cheapens what should be a very intimate and private act!

I am also saddened by the fact that in this day and age when so many women want to be treated as equals they still put themselves in positions where they can be degraded and disrespected by not just their peers but by the whole world! Really, what is going through your head when you take a semi-naked shot of yourself for twitter – “Now they’ll take me seriously.”? How can you equate that with empowerment and respect? Please don’t get me wrong I’m not saying we should all hide our bodies away and be embarrassed by nudity. What I’m saying is respect yourself.

There are so many sexy, empowered women in the world. And the reason they are sexy and empowered is that they don’t get their tits out any chance they get. What I find most frightening is that these are not the women who our children look up to because they’re not splashed across the tabloids every day. Our children are bombarded with over sexualised images of people who are famous for doing nothing! What is this teaching the younger generation?

Many of you will think I’m delusional. That wanting media representation of a world that doesn’t revolve around how you look or how many booby shots you have on twitter is a dream that will never come true, but I am just so frustrated at the meaningless that is forced upon us every day by the media that I have boycotted it. I don’t read trashy magazines, women’s magazines, newspapers or news websites. I don’t watch the news or entertainment type programs that are filled with the latest gossip about this or that star. I don’t want this bullshit filling my brain anymore!! I tried to find a homepage that didn’t sport this crap and I found bing.com.au, which has beautiful, awe inspiring photos on it. It was the only one I could find. Where do our children find positive self-imagery. Where do they see and/or read about the meaning of life? The meaning of life – being happy, treasuring relationships, doing things that fill you with joy? Where do they get to experience that?

The question I really want you to think about though is what will our future look like if this type of media representation keeps escalating? We have to take a stand now. If we don’t buy the magazines or read the stories on the net then eventually the media will be forced to give us what we want. Don’t you want to read an article that leaves you feeling inspired and happy to be exactly who you are?

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

PS. Sorry for the soapbox rant but some days I just feel like I’m going to explode if I don’t have my rant. He he he.

let’s talk about love…

15 Feb

Hearts

Well once again the most romantic day of the year has been and gone and once again I have spent it as a singleton. Truthfully, I have never been into the hype that surrounds the day. I would much rather do something simple, yet meaningful. And usually being single isn’t a problem for me at all, but on Valentine’s Day I sometimes think that maybe, just maybe it would be nice to have someone special in my life…to share moments with.

I don’t usually write about romantic love. After all this is a blog about Universal Love, but since Universal Love encompasses all types of love, I think it is time I wrote about LURVE!!!

This is definitely not my area of expertise. In the past for the most part I have fallen for men who were emotionally unequipped to deal with a relationship or who just didn’t feel the same way about me. When I think about it there has really only ever been one man who was kind, loving and into me as much as I was into him. Unfortunately, he was only in Australia on a holiday visa and had to go back to the Mother Country. However, in the short time that I spent with him, he gave me a glimpse of what a real relationship looked like. I’ve been trying to find that ever since, without much luck.

My taste in men is actually quite appalling. I tend to lose myself in the men I date. I take up their hobbies and interests and the things I’m interested in get put to the side. Then the things that interested him in the first place about me no longer exist and his interest quickly wanes. It’s a trait I see in a lot of women and I often wonder why we do that? Why do we so eagerly give up our lives to embrace our partner’s lifestyle?

So since my last serious relationship crashed and burned, I have remained single. Once I had gotten over my last relationship I found that I didn’t want to meet someone for fear of losing my balance again. I didn’t want love to suffocate my “self”. I needed time to be alone, to work out why I keep picking the same type of men. I needed to fall in love with me again.

Let love light your heart.

Let love light your heart.

I also tended to lower my standards when I met someone. I’m sure there a lot of women out there who have a list of things they would like in a partner. I had one, still do. It’s filled with all the things I would like my partner to be, do or have. And I have notes beside the items that are not negotiable. However, as soon as a guy showed any interest in me, my list would go out the window. If I had just taken the time to go through that list and realise that actually this guy didn’t match up, then I probably could have saved myself a lot of heartache. Let me be clear I’m not talking about little things not matching up. I’m talking about deal breakers like respect, loyalty and honesty.

For so long I was waiting for my knight in shining armour and when I thought I had found him, I expected him to save me. But these poor guys couldn’t even save themselves, so there was little hope of them saving me. Now I know I don’t need saving. I’m my own knight in shining armour.

So, do I still believe in love? Hell yeah!! I’m just more realistic about it now and I’m not willing to compromise anymore. I would rather be single then with a guy who doesn’t meet my expectations. Have I moved on from the type of guy I usually go for? Well let’s just say that some months ago, I met a guy who was exactly my “type” and within minutes of him opening his mouth I knew he was not worthy of my interest. So I am learning…

Real love is worth the wait but the thing I think we need to teach our children is that real love is not a fairy tale. It’s raw, emotional and it’s bloody hard work! But it’s also the most rewarding experience you will ever have.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

ch ch ch changes…

9 Feb

Time to make a change. David Bowie was right. It is time to make a change. Funnily enough, change is the only thing you can count on to remain the same. It is unavoidable. Just like you can’t stop the seasons from changing, you can’t stop your life from changing either. So you have two choices – you can decide what changes are being made to your life or you can dig your heels in and refuse to move forward only to be thrust into the change by outside influences. I’ve tried the latter and it’s not good. No only do you get a sore butt as the door smacks you on the way out, but you are also thrown into a situation not of your conscious making and therefore you feel pretty unprepared for it. Some people thrive on this but not me. I like my changes to be of my own doing. I like to know the general direction I’m heading in even though I don’t really know how I’m going to get there.

Life is asking me to make a change. To bring more of my quintessential self to the foreground of my personality. For me it’s like a weight is coming off my shoulders. I don’t have to put so many masks on of a morning before I walk out the door. I didn’t just want the changes to be on the inside, I wanted it to be a physical change as well. I wanted to make a statement to the world – a statement that says, “I am me, hear me roar!” I truly think I am having a Helen Reddy moment!! The physical transformation has already started with a hair cut – a short hair cut that I have been dreaming of for ages but was always too scared to try. My quintessential self said to my physical self, “What’s the worst that could happen? You hate it! So what! It’s hair! It will grow back!”. but I love it. I love the ease of it and now I want to make more changes. I’m becoming a changeaholic!

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So if you’re feeling that push from the Universe to make some changes in your life start with something small but significant. I’m telling you, it’s addictive. Once you start you won’t want to stop! So what have you wanted to do different? Start it today. I promise you, you won’t regret it.

Until Next Time…Think Big & Blossom!

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